Why are you single? Hell, if I knew the answer I wouldn’t be single and you wouldn’t keep inquiring about my dating life. I’m single because I choose not to settle for the first man who smiles in my face while licking his lips or gazing at my covered chest, a man who tells me I’m “hot” or “fine” or “sexy” (usually it’s not what you say it’s how you say it), a man who purposely tells me he’s single only to discover he’s married, engaged, or in another “situationship.”
It took me going through the many trials of dating and a broken marriage to realize my worth. Abstaining from sex has played a major role in building my self-value or self-worth. I no longer desire to hold the title of a “friend with benefits” … a “one night stand” … or a “hot piece of ass.”
Remember, when you allow a distressed man to enter your womb you become a part of him … the deleterious spermatozoa that he releases may contain a few of his unsettled demons (a “rubber” would be too weak to shield the vigor). So, think about that before you become intoxicated by the penis. This is far beyond being “drunk in love.”
And Ladies, you play a major role in the dating game. That thing between your legs has unmeasurable value and power. Respect yourself. If you don’t, he won’t either. And, stop believing that women can be like men in a sexual nature (where sex is just a physical thing). Most men usually think with the head of their “little man.” Eventually, you will catch feelings, you will sit by the phone hoping he’ll call, and you will beat yourself up asking, “Why did I even get involved?”
As women (and as men) we must take our time, be patient, and gain knowledge about the person whom we may one day call our “man (woman)” … our “boo” … our “husband (wife).”
I still believe there is someone for everyone … we aren’t equipped to love alone; it’ll take a mental, spiritual, and psychological connection.